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Porn Addiction







"You spoke about overcoming an addiction to pornography in an article on your web site. Did you overcome this addition by prayer alone? Or did you have a program you worked with prayer? I have prayed but haven't had the miracle of being set free from my addiction."

As I have shown in the cartoon episodes of Theophilus where Sketch is struggling with pornography (Sketch's Secret Sin, The Devil's Trap, The Tempter's Snare, and Turning Point), there are evil spirits associated with this addiction (Ephesians 6:12). If you want to stop your involvement with pornography and can't stop, you are in bondage and should pray for deliverance.

If it were me I would destroy any and all materials in my possession that give demonic forces an open door. I would also verbally (speaking aloud) denounce pornography and all the evil spirits involved with that bondage in the name of Jesus. I would verbally (speaking aloud) reject all images of female nudity and other explicit images of sexual activity that have reached my mind. I would reject all impure thoughts. I would deny all sexual fantasies that want to impress themselves on my mind. I would affirm aloud that I am a man of God and that I will not allow immoral thoughts a place in my mind or my imagination. I would take a stand against this attack on me and my family, and I would serve notice on the powers of darkness that had come against me.

I would ask the Lord's forgiveness for my sins against Him and against my body, the temple of the Holy Spirit, and (assuming you're married) I would ask my wife's forgiveness for what this had done to her and our marriage. I would ask the Lord to make me clean and heal the hurts I had caused my wife.

I would make every effort to remove myself from temptation. I would deliberately guard what I see in movies and on TV and videos. I would refuse to buy, look at, or read any sexually stimulating literature. (I found that I had to just stay away from any part of a bookstore or magazine rack that had material like that.)

Important: I would find a prayer-share-healing partner (James 5:16), a Christian brother who would pray with me and encourage me -- someone who I could be accountable to, who would check up on me, to whom I could go when temptations attempt to take control.





"I see your strip deals with the problem of Porn. My dad has that problem! I can't stand it. I want to love him so badly, but every time I look at him, it makes me feel kind of disgusting. He always searches for extremely dirty pictures, prints and collects them. Why?! He doesn't know that I know the whole situation. I can't love him. What should I do? You know what I can't stand the most? It is that he is a presbyter in my church! He has a Bible CD right beside a sexy casino CD. I told you this for you are far away from here and you're the only man that I know who is old enough to solve this kind of problem in Christ. I've never told anyone this before."

First of all, it will be easier for you to love your dad if you see him the way Jesus sees him. Ask the Lord to let you see him that way. Jesus loves your dad just as He loves you. It hurts Jesus to see what your dad is going through and the effect this has on your family. It hurts Jesus to see how all this is hurting you. Ask Jesus to let His love for your dad flow through you. Ask Jesus to help you love your dad the way He does -- unconditionally!

Your dad is a prisoner of war (and I'm sure he doesn't even know it). I'm talking about spiritual warfare. He is in bondage to the powers of darkness (Satan's kingdom). At some point in his life he opened the door for the devil and sexual addiction to take control. I don't know if your dad would like to be free of that or not, but even if he wants to be rid of it, he cannot do it alone. He can only do it with the help of Jesus.

You can love your dad without approving what he does. He needs your love and your prayers to overcome his problems. But most of all he needs Jesus. I understand what he is going through, for I had the same problem for over 40 years. And I, too, was a presbyter (elder) of the church. You would be surprised at how many men in church leadership roles have this problem, and/or other addictions, such as gluttony. They also need Jesus.

I encourage you to tell your dad what you know about him and his interest in pornography, and tell him how it makes you feel. Before you do, however, ask the Lord to provide the opportunity (so there will be no interruptions or distractions) and to give you His words to speak to your dad. Ask Him to touch your dad's heart and convict him of this sin and give him a strong desire to be set free from the stronghold the devil has in his life.

Just remember, there is a spiritual war going on, and your dad (church presbyter or not) is a prisoner of the enemy. Ask Jesus to set him free and restore the joy and peace that the devil has stolen from your family. Ask Jesus how you can help.

God bless you and your dad with a special measure of His marvelous love and amazing grace!!!





"Bob, I have taken action to gain my life back 100%. I did a search of all my CD files, magazines, etc., and eliminated anything that would cause me to have thoughts related to pornography. I have been praying, reading my Bible, listening to Christian songs and being active in as many things as I can so that I can have my mind on other things besides temptations. I looked at the sites you have listed and I think I am going to take an online course and look at maybe getting some further counseling.

"Early on while I was trying to decide whether or not to delete some 'swimsuit' photos, I was reminded of your cartoon where the drunk is writing to the preacher. He starts out fine with a little glass and fine handwriting and ends up with a whole bottle and slurred, unrecognizable writing. I didn't want to be like him, justifying my sins by saying that a little never hurts anyone.

"I also feel led to tell you something that has been on my heart. Whenever I would look at pornography, I would sometimes have nightmares about hell. The dreams were not really horrifying as you would think they would be. It was as if I was watching the dream, but I was detached from it. I know God didn't want to terrify me, but the words that have stuck in my mind are 'playing with fire.' It was as if God was letting me see just enough of hell to let me know that I was very literally playing with fire!

"Since I have quit looking at pornography, I have had no dreams of hell at all. I've either had no dreams, or good dreams. I feel like Martin Luther King, saying, 'Free at last! Free at last! Thank you, God! I'm free at last.' And never again will I willingly shackle myself to sin. Thank you, brother, for your prayers and support."






Internet Resources and Organizations

Setting Captives Free
Offers a free, Christ-centered, 60-day online course to find freedom from pornography.

Pure Intimacy
A Christian resource for those struggling with internet, pornography and other sexual addictions,
as well as those who care about them.

Breaking Pornographic Addiction
Practical suggestions for overcoming porn addiction. Includes a supportive, monitored BBS and helpful book suggestions.

Porn-Free
Offers help and hope for people affected by sex addiction.
Provides free resources, help for spouses of porn addicts, Bible studies, tips on avoiding porn, steps to breaking addiction,
daily devotions, real stories, and related resources.

Fires of Darkness
A Christian ministry for pornography addicts and the people who love them.
Includes discussion lists and resources on sexual addiction.

Sexaholics Anonymous
A fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may
solve their common problem and help others to recover.

S-Anon International Family Groups
A fellowship of people who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other so that they may solve their
common problem and help others to recover. The only requirement for membership is that there be
a problem of sexaholism in a relative or friend.



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