Rebecca West: Words & Music

Our Online Romance
by Rebecca and Bob West with the Holy Spirit

Chapter 7

Lifelong Friends

From: Bob
Subject: Fwd: Photos of Rebecca's book and CDs
Date: March 12, 2009, 11:32:23 AM EDT
To: Rebecca

Hi Rebecca,

I thought you might like to see the photos I made directly from your CDs and book by using my scanner to import the images into Photoshop. I made color and tonal adjustments and reduced the sizes so they can be used to advertise on Bette's website. I sent these to Bette along with the info she would need for the HTML code.


Rebecca's Christmas CD Rebecca's You Raise Me Up CD
Rebecca's Book Rebecca's Book and CDs

From: Rebecca
Subject: Rebeca is excited!!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah!!!!
Date: March 12, 2009, 12:27 PM EDT
To: Bob

You are a genius!!!! The photos are excellent, I couldn't ask for better! Thank God for you and your expertise!!!!!!!!!! I am so thankful.
How can I repay you?
God bless you this day special!!!!!!!!!!
I will write more tonight -- I am at the church.
Love and abundant blessings is my prayer for you.
Rebecca Rebecca's Red Rose

From: Bob
Subject: Re: Rebeca is excited!!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah!!!!
Date: March 12, 2009, 12:45 PM EDT
To: Rebecca

Rebecca is so excited that she misspelled her own name in the Subject. :-)

You cause me to blush with all that praise. That's very sweet of You, and I graciously accept your thanks, and especially your prayers, but (as you know) it is all because of Jesus.

I'm glad you're pleased...

Love, Bob

From: Rebecca
Subject: Re: Rebeca is excited!!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah!!!!
Date: March 12, 2009, 2:42:58 PM EDT
To: Bob

Hi Dr Pepper!
You must teach me how to spell ------------ hahahahahahhah
I am elated! I called my sister and she reminded me that she told me 5 years ago that I would SOAR. Of course I have never forgotten that --- it is uppermost in my heart and in my mind every day.

I have channel 9 (pbs tv) here in the office today. Mark has meetings all day on Thursdays, so it is a pretty busy day here at River of Life.

More later ----------

Rebecca Rebecca's Red Rose

From: Bob
Subject: Bob feels better
Date: March 13, 2009, 10:18:37 AM EDT
To: Rebecca

Hi Rebecca!

How are you this morning?

I'm doing better myself. I had a good night's sleep. Not like the night before, when I got to bed late and woke up early and tossed and turned in between. Late day before yesterday I received a threatening letter from the medical firm whose doctor did my colonoscopy 4 years ago. They said that I had not paid my bill and that I had not cooperated with their efforts to collect. The thing is -- I am certain that I paid that bill as soon as I received it (if they sent one), and I have never heard from them again until now. I can't prove I paid it after all this time, because I no longer have cancelled checks from back then. I've even changed banks since then. But I reconcile my account every month and I have no outstanding checks. So their threat to turn what they say I owe over to a collection agency and claim that I have not cooperated with their so-called efforts to collect aroused a fighting spirit within me. And during the night it seems that that evil spirit kept putting thoughts about that in my mind.

Yesterday I talked with the girl that works in their billing department and told her that I had paid the bill and that if they thought I had not, then they should have sent me a second notice and not wait four years and then send me that letter. She said she would talk with someone there, her supervisor I assume, and would call me back before the end of the day. But she did not. So I am still waiting. But I am not concerned about it. I leave it up to the Lord. Please pray that His will be done, and that I will know what to do.

I'm glad you like what I did with the images of your CDS, etc., for use on the internet. Bette said she thought it was "Perfect".

I don't really have any news. Unless the fact that I have had breakfast is news. I decided to do something different from cereal or bacon and eggs, etc. I made a fruit salad by cutting up a banana and an apple and adding some almonds and walnuts and pouring a little lemon juice over it all. I had been thinking about fixing bacon and waffles and syrup, but decided to do something more healthy. At least this time. :-)

Have a fantastic day!!!

Love, Bob

From: Rebecca
Subject: Rebecca --- home at last
Date: March 13, 2009, 9:02 PM
To: Bob

Greetings Dearest Bob --

I have finally arrived home after a day of running around! So good to be home. Just this minute turned on the computer for the first time today. It was so nice to have your e-mails to read!

I started out this morning at St Louis Bread Co., where I met with a lady, Schuyler, from church to talk with her concerning this divorce recovery group I am starting. To make a very long story short, she has a curriculum that she has used in her business called "Emotional Intelligence".

She explained to me how it would relate to people in a divorce recovery group. I will look it over when she gives it to me and go from there. There is also a large church in Atlanta GA that has over 800 connect groups, including a divorce recovery group. Another lady in our church used to attend that church, so I may have her to get info on this for me also. Maybe I could use both of these.

Schuyler expressed her interest in actually helping me with this group. So I will see what happens. I would like for her to share her story with the group some time, maybe a little later on.

Then, following that meeting --- I met with a very dear friend of mine and she is married but has been divorced 2 times. She offered to help me also. She is a great "idea" person. So, I felt like God was sending me reinforcements! I know I cannot do this alone.

I am going to call it --- "DIVORCE RECOVERY: Make Every Day Beautiful -- On The Road To Recovery." The Lord knew when He spoke those very words to me that this would be for the group. Little did I know at the time that this would develop.

Then I took some printed books of mine to Office Depot where I have them bound with clear covers on the front and the back. They have already called to let me know they are ready for pickup. I will do that tomorrow.

My singles group, which will meet once a month, will be for everyone single over the age of 55. I have decided to call it "PRIMETIME -- (SINGLES CLUB 55)". I talked to Mark (the pastor) about all of this and he loved it all. He is a very sweet person. The church is growing under his leadership.

Bette called me --- I just saw her new website theme!!!!!!! Amazing Grace. I love it!!!

I will go back to my e-mails and re-read all of your e-mails to me, but I wanted to go ahead and get this to you today. I have so much to do tonight. Put groceries away, clean up the kitchen, go through papers (always), etc., etc.

I have written a book here, but I wanted to fill you in on my day. Oh yes, I went to Walmart and tried on a lot of clothes --- AND NOTHING FIT!!! So there I was, perspiring in the ladies dressing room, wrestling with the clothes, and came out with nothing from Walmart after all that time.

Oh Well!!!

I must get busy getting everything straightened up here ---
Much love to you --- and many wonderful fabulous blessings!!!!
Thanks for everything -- from my heart.

Rebecca Rebecca's Red Rose

From: Bob
Subject: Re: Rebecca --- home at last
Date: March 13, 2009, 9:56:28 PM EDT
To: Rebecca

Hi Rebecca!

Great to hear from you! I'm really proud of you for letting the Lord use you in those ministries you mentioned. You will do great. But yes, it will be good for you to have help. I'm glad you have some capable and willing volunteers.

Sleep well...

Love, Bob

From: Rebecca
Subject: Rebecca -- Publish
Date: March 13, 2009, 11:43 PM
To: Bob

Here is a copy of my new article I sent to Bette to publish on her Daily Christian Journal website:


Crushed and broken -- feeling rejected and very much alone -- I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders. I was getting the rest of my personal belongings from the home I had shared with my husband for 30 years. The small U-haul was packed full of my things. My sister and her husband drove me back to their house in Illinois. I was completely numb. All feeling had left my body. My sister told me later that the look on my face was so sad. She cried for me, because at that time my tears were all shut up inside my heart. It broke her heart to look at me. I sat like a zombie all the way back to their house. My world, as I knew it, had ended.

I have shed enough tears to fill an ocean. I have prayed until my eyes were swollen. Where was God? Was His grace sufficient for me in this situation? I was desperate to hear from God, but He seemed so far away. But day after day I kept running to God and calling out for His peace and comfort.

The days turned into weeks, then into months, then into years... I could not believe that my husband was gone. I could not believe he had chosen someone else instead of me after 30 years of a great marriage and ministering together all over the United States. Unbelief, depression, and physical problems bombarded my life for quite a while.

As time went by, reality set in. He was not coming back to me. My life was changed forever.

I read God's word every day. I depended on God for my very life. So alone, and so empty inside. I could only run to Him for some sort of comfort that I needed so desperately.

Slowly, God began to reveal His strength to me in my weakness. When we are weak, He is strong. It is in our weakness that God can show His strength and reveal to us that His grace is sufficient. His loving arms embrace us -- and we know He is there beside us. He never left. He is the one who stayed. And then we remember that He said in His word, "My grace (my favor and loving-kindness and mercy) are enough for you." (2 Corinthians 12:9, Amplified)

I am reminded of a song that I love. I can hear my sweet mother's voice singing "Amazing grace, how sweet the sound..."

God's grace really is enough. At the end of the day -- when all seems lost -- He is there. Without His grace and mercy, we have no hope. But His amazing grace is bestowed on us every day! His mercies are new every morning. His grace is sufficient for me, and I know His grace is sufficient for you too.

So, Keep Soaring On Angels Wings!

~ Rebecca

From: Bob
Subject: Re: Rebecca -- Publish
Date: March 14, 2009, 12:25 PM
To: Rebecca

Hi Rebecca!

I shed some tears myself as I read it. Thanks for sharing. I read it on Bette's website too. It will bless many who read it. And I expect the Lord blessed you while you were writing it.

I slept late this morning. It was noontime by the time I came to the kitchen and started fixing breakfast. I decided it was time to have crisp thick bacon, scrambled eggs, waffles, and apple juice again. Now for my next meal I will have to decide if I should have lunch or supper :-)

Bette's new website format is beautiful. And so much more easier to read and navigate.

I hope you're having a wonderful day.

Love and blessings from your special friend in North Carolina,

Soaring Bob

From: Rebecca
Subject: Rebecca -- Saturday afternoon
Date: March 14, 2009, 4:58:34 PM EDT
To: Bob

Hi Bob!

I completely agree with you -- Bette has done a tremendous job with the website. I really love the new look!

I went to a ladies prayer breakfast this morning. I had asked Bette to go also. The meeting was at 9 a.m. So at 8 a.m. this morning Bette called, and thank goodness she did! I was sound asleep! So I rushed around and made it to the meeting! I am so glad the church is close to my little apartment! Your morning sounds absolutely wonderful! I love those kinds of mornings.

Then I went to Barb and Fred's house to help Barb decorate for Isaiah's (her grandson) birthday party tomorrow! He will be seven years old! He is a very smart little boy.

Then I went to Office Depot to pick up my books that were ready, and I took them to the resource center at the church. Now, at last, I'm home! And I am going to do some laundry.

The sun is shining thru the windows -- reminding me of all of our lives. After the clouds and rain, the sun shines again. We are so blessed by our Heavenly Father.

Have a wonderful Saturday afternoon, Dr Pepper!!!!!
Hugs and blessings!!!

Rebecca Rebecca's Red Rose

From: Rebecca
Subject: Rebecca (with coffee)
Date: March 15, 2009, 10:35 AM
To: Bob

Good Morning Bob!
Its a beautiful Sunday morning --- I am meeting Bette for coffee at the church in just a little while -- just wanted to say "hi" to you!
Have a beautiful day!
Love and blessings today!
Rebecca Rebecca's Red Rose

From: Bob
Subject: Re: Rebecca (with coffee)
Date: March 15, 2009, 2:24:38 PM EDT
To: Rebecca

Good afternoon Rebecca!

Yes, it is beautiful here too. Been raining the past couple of days, but stopped a little after daybreak. It has warmed up too. Now 53 degrees and overcast. The low tonight will be 40.

Hope you're having a good day. Not much happening here. I did get up an hour earlier than yesterday and was in the kitchen by 11. But I had been awake for a few hours. Just laying in bed and talking to the Lord and listening for His voice. One of the things that happened was He helped me visualize how to treat one of the scenes in the next OFC episode.

Suzanne and Fred will pick me up around 5 and take me with them to Don and Gail's house where the small group meeting will be this evening. We will also eat supper there. Suzanne said that when they pick me up, she will run in for a minute to put some food in my fridge. "Left-overs" she called them, except that I know when she did some cooking yesterday (which she doesn't have the opportunity to do often because of her job, and her Bible course ministry, and going to the nursing home to read to patients there, and going with Fred to South Carolina to see about his parents, etc., etc., etc.) that they're not really "left-overs." She just cooked extra in order to give me some. She said she is bringing me some white bean chili and the fixings for strawberry shortcake. Yum-yum!

Thank you for saying "Hi" to me this morning and wishing me a beautiful day. I hope you're having one too.

That's all my news, so I will sign off for now...

Love, Bob

From: Rebecca
Subject: To Dr Pepper from Rebecca
Date: March 16, 2009, 1:13:52 PM EDT
To: Bob

Hi Bob!
Did you eat too much strawberry shortcake???
That sounds soooooo good!
Have a wonderful day ---- God made this day just for you!
Rebecca Rebecca's Red Rose

From: Rebecca
Subject: Rebecca -- prayer request
Date: March 18, 2009, 7:33:10 AM EDT
To: Bette, Bob

Good morning dearest friends ---

I am going to the doctor this morning to have 3 small moles removed from my neck --- so please say a little prayer for me at 9 a.m. (my time). It's a very simple procedure, performed in the doctor's office at the medical clinic, but I am a big baby when it comes to things like this! Barb is going with me. My doctor is well-known and one of the best plastic surgeons.

Thanks so much --

I will report back when I get home. Barb and I plan to go to lunch afterward, so I will e-mail as soon as I get back from that. It will be this afternoon.

Many thanks!!! I appreciate you both soooooo much! More than you know.

Rebecca Rebecca's Red Rose

From: Rebecca
Subject: Rebecca ----- home
Date: March 18, 2009, 11:16 AM
To: Bob

Hi dear friend!

I am home!! It took Dr Ahmed all of 15 or 20 minutes to remove the 3 small moles on my neck. He is excellent. The nurse put a numbing cream on my neck and then the doctor gave me 3 shots in the same area before he removed them. I didn't feel anything. Now, I am to put peroxide and neosporem on them when I change the bandaid tomorrow.

I am so glad to get it over with!

Thank you for praying for me. I felt the prayer and was not nervous at all.

Thank God for my friends. I thank God for you and Bette every day.

I am going to eat breakfast now and relax..... it's a beautiful day here today -- the sun is shining and it is nice and warm.

God bless you, Bob. Thank you for being my friend and thank you for your communication. I feel like I have known you all of my life.

Love and blessings today
Rebecca Rebecca's Red Rose

From: Bob
Subject: Rebecca ----- home
Date: March 18, 2009, 2:19:32 PM EDT
To: Rebecca

Hi Rebecca, my special friend...

I'm glad everything went well. I'm sorry I wasn't here to receive your other e-mail in time to send you a word of encouragement before you went to the doctor. But you do remain in my prayers, and I thank God for taking care of you even when I haven't asked Him for something specific.

It blesses me to read those nice things you say about our friendship. The feeling is mutual. And I think it is remarkable that the Lord can give us both the feelings that we have known each other all of our lives, even before we have met face to face. I treasure our friendship, and always look forward to hearing from you and knowing that you're doing well.

It is 2 p.m. now, my time, and I just got home. I left early this morning so I could be at the men's fellowship by 8. After that I stood around and talked with one of the men for a long time. Then I went to Julie's for breakfast and on to my appointment with the chiropractor. They used the muscle relaxer on my shoulders, and then he adjusted my spine. I told him about the painful cramps i sometimes get in my left hand. He gave me a bottle of pills to take (magnesium and something else) and said when that is gone for me to get some at the health food store and take them for the rest of my life. It is something my system needs to keep my muscles relaxed. If it works well enough, maybe I can again consider driving further than downtown, and maybe taking a trip if I want to. The last time I drove a long distance, I got painful cramps in both my hands.

I enjoy my visits with Dr. Dungan and his assistant, Laverne. We laugh a lot. From there I went to the health food store to get some more of the pills he told me to take, and then to the bank to cash a check, and to the post office to mail a CD of my OFC comic strips that someone ordered off my website, and then to the library to see if they had any new DVD movies that I haven't seen. They had several, and I picked out 3 to check out. They're due back in a week.

From there I went to Wendy's to get a sandwich for lunch, but the line was too long so I left and went to Pisgah Fish Camp for lunch instead. I wasn't very hungry, so I just got a fish sandwich and cole slaw, and water to drink. So now I am home, checking my e-mail. In a few minutes I will try to get back to work on OFC and hopefully make some progress there. Even though it has now been over a week since I finished the previous episode, I don't feel uptight or under pressure like I used to feel when I was so "deadline" oriented. I believe the Lord has been wanting me to relax and just make myself available to Him and let Him move me. Just trust that what He has given me will get done in His timing.

My doctor removed a mole from my right arm about 4 years ago. I felt the same kind of apprehension and dread that you described. And it sounds like my doctor did the same procedure yours did. And it wasn't bad at all. I'm glad I had it done.

Well, precious friend of mine, have a wonderful day -- what there is left of it. Pray that the Lord's will for me and OFC will be done.

Love and blessings,


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