Rebecca West: Words & Music

What Do Women Want?


During 30 years of music ministry and traveling across the United States, I was blessed to meet women of every age and from every walk of life. A few years ago I organized a singles group, which we called "Primetime." Some members had never been married. Others were divorced or widowed.


I have discovered that women are the same all over the world. We want to love and be loved by someone special. Our desire is to be cherished, adored and respected.


We are emotional creatures and we want someone to love us enough to try to understand us. Women are sensitive and we deserve to be treated with kindness and gentleness.


I believe intimacy is high on our list of priorities! When our emotional needs are met, we are happy. We want the feeling of belonging. A woman wants to be first in her husband's life.


Women need communication! We want to get to really know those we love. How do we get to know each other if we don't communicate? When people talk, they tell us who they are.


Women want their independence! But not to the point that we don't have our husbands to lean on. See how complicated we are! We cry when we are happy. And cry when we are sad. We love to laugh and will sometimes laugh at nothing at all.


We want our voices to be heard in all areas that concern us. Not just at home, but in every situation in which we are involved. We want to be recognized as a person who is worth listening to... Because we are!


We are energized when we are noticed and when we are complimented.


We are happy when we have time for ourselves, and we are the ones who can make this happen. Personally, I take time to write articles, to practice my singing, to shop, to have my hair cut, or just relax for an afternoon.


Women want their husbands to be strong men of God. A man of integrity who loves God with all of his heart.


So, what do women want? We want it all! We want the good life! We want to live life to the fullest! Personally, that means being by my husband's side with God as the foundation of our lives. It is really quite simple when you think about it. The key word is love.


I know for myself that I am not the same person I was five years ago. With every success and every setback, we can grow, learn, and go forward gracefully. My integrity and solid definition of who I am has not changed.


Women are the same all over the world -- we want to know that we are loved!



~ Rebecca